From the ANM archive · Family Friday · Original social post: 24 July 10:00
Before we call an ADHD child lazy, rude or difficult, we need to ask a better question:
What is making this hard—and what support would help?
Across Africa, ADHD is still too often met with blame. Children are told to “try harder.” Parents are judged. Families are expected to cope without enough information, understanding or practical help.
That is exactly why this week’s campaign matters:
ADHD Across Africa. Support, Not Shame.
Support can look simple:
❤️ Give one clear instruction instead of five at once.
🧡 Break a large task into smaller starting points.
💛 Use predictable routines and warn children before transitions.
💚 Work with schools to identify practical adjustments.
💙 Notice effort—not only completed work.
💜 Ask the child what genuinely helps.
Support does not mean removing every boundary. Clear expectations still matter. So does dignity. A child can be accountable and still deserve help.
This Family Friday, try replacing:
“Why can’t you just do it?”
with:
“What is making this difficult—and what would help you begin?”
It sounds like a small change. But the message is completely different: You are not the problem. We can work this out together.
Save this. Share it with another family, teacher or caregiver.
What helps your child or teenager feel understood and supported at home?
Different Minds. United Africa.
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